DEAR NOT SURE: I would like to touch on a couple of things pertaining to the issue you are writing about. Firstly, it is debatable on the right and wrong of informing your child of sensitive subjects or of when it is considered the appropriate time to inform them. However, it is probably wise to consider that your child is also exposed to information from other sources outside the household. What you choose to tell them or not tell them does not necessarily mean they don’t know or are not able to find out independently. To be caught lying by your child can be embarrassing not to mention may dilute their trust in you. Period. Secondly, I would like to address the different approaches that you and your husband have with the rearing of your boys. I would like to suggest that the parents have a mutual understanding and at least some agreed to approach that lets the children know that although you and your husband may have different feelings about different topics, there will be common ground and ground rules for everyone. It is important to let children know that Parents are a team and are working together for their best interests.